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Sunday, 27 February 2011


Now that its nearing the end of the month, it means that a certain unfortunate event has come along.
My boyfriend has gone travelling to South East Asia and India for 3-4 months.
As you can all understand, this is not such an easy time for me. Two years together on Thursday 3rd March, and now 3-4 months without him. Non stop crying has commenced and the ice cream is being provided by the tub but overall I'm trying not to be too sad and trying to in fact distract myself with anything that I know I will enjoy whether its food, blogging, shopping, working etc. I feel as if a huge part of my little life has just been taken away and we will be going from every day contact and seeing each other once a week (uni sucks), to now not seeing each other for months and speaking maybe once a week. I love him with everything I have in me, and I know I am lucky to even have a boyfriend to begin with but it still hurts so much knowing that the one you love is on the other side of the world for such a long time and you cant see them until they're home.
I know that I want him to have an amazing time, and I am obviously incredibly jealous but at the end of the day, its an opportunity of a life time and you cannot say no to exploring countries unknown to us. When I saw this picture on weheartit.com I realised it explains exactly how I feel right now. So Guys, I am making sure that I am appreciating every moment of life but because of this, for a little while I may not post. But please realise its not because I don't love each and every one of you. I'm just trying to adapt to the new changes in my life and get back to my normal self.  Trying to be as positive as possible!

Can anyone help? Have any of you had to deal with a loved one going away for a long time? How did you handle it?
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25 comments

-marta said...

Oh I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling this way! Try to occupy your time with other things, make a goal to learn something completely new by the time he comes back, so you can show him, and spend time with friends, lots of them! I'm sure you'll be okay with time :)

ps; to answer your question, my camera-woman uses a nikon D3100!

LilyLipstick said...

I've never had a serious boyfriend so haven't had to deal with something like this but reading your post made me feel really sad...I'd have no idea how I'd react to such a situation but I think staying positive and keeping yourself as busy as possible with anything that you enjoy is a good plan. Maybe take up something new so that when he comes back with all his travelling memories you'll have loads to tell him about what you've been doing back at home? Hope you're ok :) x

Julia said...

My serious boyfriend of 3 years got a job in France and we've been seeing each other once a month (or once every 2 months) for a year. He's been coming over to the UK to see me or vice versa. It has been a very difficult time, however it has proven that our relationship was strong enough to last, even though we've been apart for a year. I've moved to France in the end to be with him.

Be strong, it's only 3-4 months and try to enjoy your time without him (i know it sounds bad, but imagine when you move in together you won't have 24 hours to yourself anymore). Try to find positive things in your life at the moment and enjoy them as much as you can. After all, nothing lasts forever and while he's traveling and discovering new things you should work on your own projects, so you can actually tell you haven't wasted those 3-4 months on being sad and lonely :))

MediterraneanX said...

I'm not in the exact situation but due to a heavy workload at Uni (I'm actually at UEA too) I only get to see my boyfriend once every month and a half as I can't go home outside of holidays and he works fulltime back home. You do get used to it - I keep myself busy with work and my Uni friends and it means I'm so much more appreciative when I get to spend time with him. We do speak daily but you could always try keeping in touch by emailing/arranging skype sessions and it might be a good idea for him to do a travelling blog so you get to read it and in a sense keep up with him? Remember distance makes the heart grow fonder!

Hattybell said...

I went away to work in a summer camp last year, which meant that I was away for 3 months, at that time it wasnt too bad because I didnt have a boyfriend, but this year I am doing the same again and now I do have a boyfriend. As the person who is going to be on the other side of the situation I know that its going to be awful and, even though its an amazing experience, I will feel just as you are feeling. Im sure that he will be feeling exactly the same, but, if you two are meant to be when he gets back and you have the next 50 years to enjoy each other. I say, take this time to grow and see the world and nothing will have changed when he gets back.

Stay strong!

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Peach said...

ehy im so sorry to read that you're feeling this way!
im more or less in the same situation: three years together the 3rd of april, seeing each other twice a week (you're right, uni sucks!) and he's going to England or America (he has to see where he has been accepted) for 6 months, and, as you do, i dont know how to handle it.

i think i'll try to concentrate more on myself, like having new goals, dedicate more time to my friends, the only positive thing is that probably i will concentrate more on my university studies..

if you two are meant to be together, this time apart will just make your relationship even stronger!
dont cry, think that this distance will make you two grow, in a positive way :)

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xxx

Cherry Pullinger said...

That must be really hard. The longest my boyfriend and I have been apart is a month. If you can, just try and keep in contact as much as possible, texts, skype, emails, even letters.

Kelly said...

Oh you poor thing!
I haven't ever been in the same situation, but I miss Andy loads when he's been away for even a week.
I know you will be wanting him to have a great time, keep smiling organise plenty to keep you busy and time will fly by.

xx

Catarina said...

me and my ex were together for 7 years when he left and moved to a different country (work reasons). 8 months went by before i found a job in the same country and moved there, but in those 8 months that we were apart we saw each other 3 times. alot of calm and patience is needed along with a good support system. surround yourself with things and people that you love and distract yourself as much as you can. the pain will still be there, but you won't feel at much.
hope you feel better.
x

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Sheps said...

It's horrible when they go away for two weeks, let alone 3-4 months. You'll be fine, go out with the girls, arrange things to do, get on top of the uni work (I find that always takes up a lot of time!) and before you know it he will be back.

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Julia said...

*hugs*
I have to say that you need to focus on other things, then as soon as you notice, BAM, 3 months' is up and you'll see him again! Try and arrange nights out with friends, shopping trips, cinema... keep your social diary filled!

it's hard for me to suggest anything as I've never had a boyfriend so I hope I helped...!

Filipa said...

Oh Pippa , I am so sorry, it must be so hard for you especially after seeing him every day!
Me and my fiance have gone 3 years long distance (yes, uni does suck) - I'm in england he's in northern ireland. which is just too far and too expensive to see each other that often. I don't really have any good recommendation, just know that somehow you will get through it, step by step. You'll do things you need to and by the end of it will seem like the time has flown! and you will also be able to appreciate each other more at the end of all of this! Just keep strong, be surrounded by good friends and keep busy! :)

katieelizabeth said...

I know how you feel. I'm in a long distance relationship while my boyfriend and me are at uni. All I can say is that although you feel rubbish now it will get easier as time goes by and its closer to when you'll see him again. Also when you do see him again it will be amazing after so long apart, promise. Try and arrange girlie nights with friends to take your mind of things. Hope everything goes ok.xxx

Kristy said...

My boyfriend and I are both in the military. This means we each have had to spend long periods of time apart from the other. My last deployment was 7 months and we saw eachother for 4 days in the middle. I know sometimes it feels like a piece of you is gone and that you will never be happy until he comes back. Try and find a hobby or pour your time and soul into something else. It will all be okay and even though it might not seem like it now, the time will pass in a blink of an eye and it will be back to normal. Always here if you need a chat x

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Cat said...

Your blog is beautiful. :)

Kinda, but I know its hardly the same. My boyfriend is at uni so we only see each other once every 3/4 weeks, compared to every other day usually when he was around. Hope you feel better soon, it's hard when it's happening, but once he's back, you'll feel so much stronger. :)

PS. Following. :) x

Natalia said...

I went through the exact same thing with my boyfriend. It was incredibly hard, but in the end it made us both realize just how much we really want to be together (we've been together now for 5 years). Something really magical happens when you're apart - Clarity. Being around him is totally intoxicating because you love him, and sometimes that can be blinding. But when he's away for a longer time, you can really see the relationship in a new light. And, in a way, that's something to look forward to. I know it's not much of a comfort, but I hope it's a little.

Laura said...

My boyfriend lived in Germany for the first 2 years of our relationship, due to him being in the army, and we now live together and he still has to go away for differant lengths of time! The best advice i can give, is always talk to him about how your feeling, surround yourself with good friends, and do atleast 5 things everyday that make you smile :) hope your well!!

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Kristen Leotsakou said...

an ancient chineese quote says that absence is to love what wind is to fire, if love is strong absence only makes it stronger. i really think it is true :)

Sophia's Lover said...

Sizzling hot chocolate
and coffee with a dash of liquer.
A snowfall
winter in paris
chocolate chaux en hiver
ballet slippers hanging from
the ballet bars
a grammophone left playing
while no ones in the room.

thanks.

Lottie said...

gorgeous!

Marie said...

Hi! I honestly can't say that I know exactly how you feel but all I know is that happiness is a choice.

As for dealing with missing your boyfriend, how about explore a new hobby?:D

Have a happy March, Pippa!:D

***** Marie *****
allthingsmarie.com

Jess said...

oh babe :(
i wish i could snuggle you! the next few months will be hard but you have to remember.. june july.. he will be home! thats summer time baby! :)
look on the bright bright bright side!
plenty of girlie time, pampering time and uni work time.. (booo) just keep your chin up doll
he sounds like a good chap, he will come home and give you a huge huge snuggle.
sorry if this is total ramble!
xxxxxxxxx

Jazzy E (hivennn) said...

<3 I'm sorry I have no advice. Distractions, distractions and take lots of photos. x hivennn

diana kang said...

my bf and i did long distance for a while! it sucks but now we really appreciate the time we spend together! we skyped a lot! xx

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