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Monday, 12 November 2018

Scrolling is making us unhappy

Clashing Time Scrolling is making us happy

This week I've been trying to catch up on all my favourite YouTubers. I don't watch live TV very often, so my spare time is either spent checking out a show that someone has recommended or watching YouTube (normally more the latter). I love how raw a 20 minute clip of someones week can be, showing the reality of their life when they have to go and do the weekly shop, take the dog for a walk, or go to a work event. It's the stuff that they think is tediously boring, but to me it's refreshing and relatable. It demonstrates that we really aren't all that different, despite living different lives.

One thing that seems to have been a very common theme in many of the vlogs I've watched this week has been comparison. But not just any old comparison, but comparison that has formed from scrolling. Scrolling through Twitter, through Instagram, and through looking at thumbnails of other creators work. I get it, if you're a content creator as a full time job, it must be impossible to not constantly look at what other people are doing and either wish you were doing the same, or feel bad about yourself that you haven't achieved x, y and z. However, I'm not a full time content creator and I feel the same.

I've been feeling quite bored recently during 9-5 so I've been escaping to the world of social media every so often to fill some time. Only now that I've listened to other people vlog their feelings about their social media comparison issues has it hit me that I am my own worst enemy.


Thursday, 25 October 2018

Why travel is always a good idea

I really love London, I always have done. Moving to work here has been one of the best decisions I've ever made - but sometimes it's bloody good to leave. I've had some amazing experiences since I've moved from Cambridge over two years ago and I genuinely feel grateful all the time that I get to be here. The only issue with it is that there is SO much to do that you end up feeling a bit overwhelmed from time to time and need to escape for a little while to reset your batteries in order to be able to cope with it all. I know that this must sound like serious 'first world problems' as I do 100% recognise how fortunate I am to spend my time in one of the most amazing cities in the world, but at the same time I want to take a moment to explore why sometimes it can be a great thing to escape.

A few months ago I spotted a journalist I follow on social media asking people to contribute to an article she was writing titled 'How travelling can impact our mental health'. Unbelievably, I was fortunate enough to have a few paragraphs in the article in Stylist Magazine, and when I was writing the email over to her it really got me thinking about how true it is. I don't travel that often but when I do it means so much to me and I feel so much more gratitude for it because it's been a while since my last trip. Below is a snippet from my space in the article so I hope you like it!


Wednesday, 22 August 2018

Why I set up LDN Laptop Club

Why I set up LDN Laptop Club

As I'm sure you've noticed, I've been a pretty bad blogger recently. Ever since I moved to work in London two years ago, I've found it harder and harder to find the time to blog. Now I really don't want to be one of those people who says 'I'm so busy' 24/7 (as we all know that's boring to listen to), but it can be hard to motivate yourself to use any spare time you do have to actually put your thoughts down. After asking around, I realised that I am not the only one who has this issue, so I tried to work out how we can alleviate the problem. Then a few months ago I found a solution! I don't know about you, but I personally think it is way more fun to do things with other people around, so I decided to set up a monthly group to meet up and write blog posts at the same time. 

Every month 2 or 3 people come along, buy a cup of tea or coffee (and maybe a slice of cake), and get their laptops out to blog or work on a creative project. We chat about our lives, work and blogs, and come up with ideas for what each of us could write about. Sometimes your passion is there, but writers block has got in the way and you just don't know how to begin starting your post - so it's amazing to have friendly faces around who can help you to see some direction. 

LDN Laptop Club began earlier in the year when I was feeling especially uninspired and I'm so pleased that it's still running now. I've met some incredible people, (who I now hang out with outside of the club) and actually started to blog! Yes, it may only be once or twice a month, but it is a hell of a lot more than I would be if I was left to do it on my own. Every single time I leave laptop club I feel fulfilled, like the pressure of blogging has diminished and I feel like I can tackle it head on. I look forward to attending and seeing people who have felt exactly the same as me, and I like the idea that I can go along and no one judge me that I've not even looked at my blog since the last time we met.

Friday, 29 June 2018

Eight reasons why everyone should be watching Queer Eye

I don't watch TV shows religiously and I'm not the kind of person to stay in to watch something I love, so Netflix and catch up is absolutely perfect for me - especially on the go. I normally tend to watch one thing consistently until I finish a series, and then move on to something new after a recommendation from a friend. Netflix gives me the opportunity to watch things as and when I choose, and I love the flexibility it offers me. With my latest addiction I am ashamed that I am so late to the game as I genuinely don't know how on earth I missed watching it for so long! So let me introduce you to a show that pretty much everyone has been talking about over the last few months...

Queer Eye is a Netflix original series which is 'more than a makeover' show. Each episode shows the "Fab Five" advise men (and sometimes women) on fashion, grooming, food, culture and design in order to try and give them a new lust for life and help them achieve their life goals. It might sound like a bit of a silly show with a simple concept, but actually it goes so much deeper than the superficial. It looks at how people can get stuck in a rut and often they can't get out of it without a little bit of help - which is where the fab five come in. Here are my eight reasons why you should start watch Queer Eye right away.

1. It's a show that celebrates homosexuality and emphasises that people who are not heterosexual are no different from anyone else. Although the show highlights some of the prejudice that they have felt during their lives, they also discuss how they always come out fighting. There's no doubt that there are still issues throughout the world with people disagreeing with homosexuality, but I think shows like this are fantastic at opening the minds of those who choose not to accept equality for all. If a redneck from the US can welcome five gay men in to his life and sob like a little baby when they leave, then surely we can expect an attitude change from other people too?

Monday, 21 May 2018

So I've started a podcast...

A few months ago I was round at my friend Kat's house and we were drinking a lot of prosecco. We wanted to film a video for her youtube channel all about internet dating so we sat down in front of the camera to have a bit of a chin wag about our individual experiences. A few hours later after we'd finished (talking, giggling and drinking) we drunkenly decided that it would be a really good idea to turn the audio from this video in to a podcast! After all...what was the worst that could happen? We loved the way that our three different experiences and opinions worked well together on the recording, and thought that it would be good to move forward discussing a whole host of subjects. It seems that when you've had a couple of bottles of prosecco and lots of sweets and snacks, the impossible seems a hell of a lot more possible. Well I'm so grateful that our intoxicated conversation turned in to a reality, because eight episodes later and it looks like this is a proper thing now! The Prosecco Sessions was born. 

We now share weekly podcast episodes (started fortnightly) on a Sunday morning on subjects that interest us and record whenever we can whilst drinking a glass of fizz or two during recording. The hosts consist of me, Laura from LovedByLaura and Kat from ShesAGentry, and we're a pretty good team if I don't say so myself! We all live in different places, are all different ages, and all do completely different job roles - which makes for a really interesting conversation from three women with different lives. We each have different family situations, different relationship histories, and different likes and dislikes, and it means that we can add perspectives that maybe one of us hadn't thought about before. We pick a subject for each episode and spend a few days beforehand thinking about it and looking in to anything in particular that we want to bring up. Then we come together and get chatting for a couple of hours and pick the best bits for you to listen to!

Saturday, 19 May 2018

Let's talk about stress and mental health

Unless you've been living under a rock then you'll know that it has been #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek between the 14th-19th May. Started by the Mental Health Foundation in 2001, this week aims to raise awareness of mental health and the problems associated with mental health in order to inspire action and promote the message of good mental health for all. Not an easy challenge, i'm sure you can agree! This year they are focussing on the subject of stress as their research has shown that it is a key factor in many peoples struggles. Although it isn't a mental health problem in itself, it can lead to depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicide - so if we don't talk about stress then we are in danger of people developing much more severe issues. Whether it is stress in your personal life, stress caused by work, worrying about money, health concerns...whatever, it is crucial that we highlight the epidemic which is happening amongst many people in the UK at the moment. 

"Three quarters (74%) of people have at some point felt so stressed that they felt overwhelmed or unable to cope" (Mental Health Foundation Survey of 4169 UK adults)

So in the spirit of opening up the conversation and encouraging people I know to delve in to discussions about it, I went to Twitter to get some information on how different people handle stress and cope with their own mental health. I hope this helps!

1. "I have what I call my 'Basic Humanity Checklist' which I run through whenever I'm feeling low/stressed. 1. Have I eaten food in the past 24 hours? 2. Have I drunk water in the past 12 hours? 3. Have I had enough sleep in the past 48 hours? 4. Have I moved/washed my body in the last week? 5. Have I had any meaningful human interaction in the last week? If I get through all that without feeling better, it's time to talk..." @Becki_Bush, Book Editor, London

2. "I find when I'm suffering, every night before I go to sleep, I think back through my day & write down anything good that's happened, even if it's as small as someone smiling at me in a coffee shop. Looking at the good rather than the bad really helps me in day to day life." @CaraWood, Manager, London


Saturday, 28 April 2018

10 reasons we should talk about periods more...

Yes, I'm doing it, I'm talking about periods. Why am I talking about periods? Well this week I'm on my period and I am I need to talk about it. I don't necessarily mean all the time, but we sure as hell should feel more comfortable having the odd conversation about it when the time is right.  Today, my friends, is that day. I am going to give you 10 reasons why we should all be talking about periods more. 

1. Well the first reason is just obvious...we should talk about it because they suck. Why suffer in silence if you're feeling anything less than okay? If you had a bad foot and someone asked you why you were limping then you'd have no problems telling them that you've hurt your foot. So why on earth do we feel the need to be so shy about discussing what's going on inside us? Yes it can be a bit gross from time to time, but it's bloody life (see what I did there), so we should feel good about discussing the things that are causing us pain - periods or not! 

2. Because it's natural. It's a thing that comes about every month and we literally have no control over it. Once you hit puberty, it will come around once a month and at first it will be a real surprise. Your body is going through some huge changes, and adding your period in to the mix is possibly the worst thing ever. BUT it is natural, and you're not the only there's no point making a massive deal in out of it as we can't change it. If conversations started younger then we wouldn't all be so afraid as we grow up. 

3. Because it's important to recognise that there is no 'normal' period. None of us look the same, none of us feel the same, none of us are the same, so why would there be one set way to have a period? Some people have short periods and some long, some people have heavy periods and some light, some feel pain and some barely feel a thing...every person has a completely different combination of all of them. It's important for us to be open about what we go through because it helps other people to understand that each of our experiences are 'normal' - but it's normal for us, not for every woman on the planet.


Sunday, 22 April 2018

It's the little things that get me excited when changing jobs...

Recently I decided to take the plunge and apply for an opportunity that appeared in my inbox. After a year and a half in my current role I thought I would take a chance on a new job that sounded terrifying but exciting all at the same time. I really like the place i'm at at the moment, but sometimes a new offer turns up that is just too good to turn down - and I'm so grateful that this new offer was given to me. I hope to do quite a bit of content about getting a new job and how it all goes when I start, but I thought i'd start with mentioning the nerdiest thing that's making me excited about moving jobs. STATIONERY. Yes I know what you're thinking, 'is she really saying that a few new notebooks and some fancy pens are all that exciting?' And my answer is yes, they make me just as excited now as they did each summer when mum would take me to WHSmith in an attempt to get me to be enthusiastic about going back to school after a long holiday off. 

One of my favourite places to shop for new bits and pieces is the Old English Company. They are a stationery and homeware brand that make really beautiful, hand lettered products that I am obsessed with. Their stuff is so simple and stylish, and they use cute calligraphy-style writing across all their designs. I was introduced to them a few years ago and have been building a collection of items from them ever since (I can't help myself). When I found out about my new job they were naturally the first place I headed to when I decided that I wanted to treat myself to new work stationery, but I hadn't quite realised that all but one of my favourite items were 'millennial pink' themed! Who can resist it when they all look so nice together? My main priority had to be planners and notepads, because although I like to think of myself as quite a naturally organised person, often this is down to the help of a good planner. An A5 notebook is so handy for keeping in your bag in between meetings when you're out and about, and it's even better when it's got some rose gold foil lettering on the front. Then when you're at your desk, prioritising tasks is essential for me if I want to tackle not only the big jobs, but also the boring ones too. A weekly agenda helps me to take a look at the week ahead and assess what things I need to make sure I tick off; and then a note pad and memo pad are super handy for making notes throughout the day when new tasks are added to your (never ending) list.


Monday, 16 April 2018

Why I'm Doing #WalkInHerShoes

10,000 steps a day does not sound like a lot to most people. However if you're like one of the many people like me who use public transport and then sit on their bums all day in an office, then it is embarrassing how few steps you're able to achieve on a day-to-day basis. Until recently I had never even thought about how far I was walking each day, or how much time I spent sitting versus walking. I always thought that if I was eating good (enough) food and doing my yoga once or twice a week then I was surely living a healthy lifestyle. Well I was wrong! Sitting around for more than eight hours a day can be associated with diabetes, heart disease, issues with blood pressure...the list goes on. However if you're able to swap your habits and walk around a little bit more during your day then you can counter all those problems and more! 

A few months ago I heard about Care International, a charity working to fight poverty in 94 countries, after seeing their signs at International Women's Day in London. I discovered that they do a number of fundraising projects throughout the year which focus on helping women and girls who are affected by poverty and discrimination - and they have been doing some incredible things so far. I think it is very easy to go about your normal life and not think about women in other countries who are exactly the same age as you, but living their life in a very different way. I wake up in my comfortable bed, go to work using my oyster card on the tube, and then sit in my nice warm office all day long earning money to pay my bills. I don't have issues with buying myself lunch, or accessing clean water. I don't have issues with putting clothes on my back or makeup on my face. I am fortunate in the sense that I do not have to face any extreme discrimination because I am a woman. Yet I'm sure you'll all aware that this is not the case for a lot of women and girls in other countries.


Sunday, 25 March 2018

Wrapping up

I don't know about you, but i'm bloody freezing pretty much all the time. I'm that person who wears socks to bed (and sometimes a jumper). I'm that person who has gloves in their bag for most of the year as I always feel like my fingers are going to fall off. I'm that person who can't sit on the sofa without a blanket cascaded all over me. In short, I get cold A LOT. When you're inside, you can wrap yourself up in all the cosy things you can find in your room, but when you're forced to leave the house for annoying things like work or social occasions, then you're a bit stuck when it comes to being warm AND looking nice. I know that when it gets to September, us Brits all have the same predicament where we don't want to give up entirely on the chance of some final summer sunshine, but we are also very realistic about the fact that within a few days, the temperature will drop, it starts bucketing it down with rain, and all public transport will be ruined for ridiculous reasons like too many leaves or frozen tracks. So despite us now being on the other side of winter and *supposedly* one step closer to some sunshine, I thought i'd share one of my favourite looks that i'm wearing at the moment, one that has helped me stay wrapped up and looking nice over the last few months. 
The cream knitted jumper. Is there anything better? You can have slim fitting ones, or slouchy over-sized ones, and yet they still look really awesome. The thing I love about my H&M knit is that it goes with pretty much anything. It's long enough to fall down below my bum (meaning it's hiding my really stylish under clothes situation of a top tucked in to my jeans) and also has nicely fitted sleeves which aren't too long and aren't too short. It has some slight detailing to it, but it isn't so over the top that it is a statement jumper. And finally, it is super cosy. It's the perfect jumper for chucking on under a big coat or a light jacket, and has been my go-to item for the last few years. I got this baby in a charity shop for £4 and I would definitely say that it has been one of my best finds. If you're ever looking for great jumpers then please do check out your local charity shops (especially if you don't mind a bigger fit), there are so many great places selling amazing big knits for everyone, but with a tiny price tag which means you can't say no. 
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